Tuesday, October 14, 2008

"Quit Should-ing All Over Yourself!"

I am a member of a Mother's Group at a local church. (YES, there are churches that exist that accept flawed people, like myself, they are called Catholic churches.) Anywho, last Friday the guest speaker was Dr. Paula Bloom, http://www.paulabloom.com/, and she was fan-fucking-tastic. She talked to us about how, as women/mothers, we have the tendency to should all over ourselves. We should spend: more time with our kids, less time at work, more time in the kitchen, less time in front TV, more time reading to our kids, more time with our husbands, blah, blah, blah... The list is endless. But, instead of should-ing all over ourselves, we should just be true to ourselves and accept that the only people we need to answer to ourselves and God. Our kids and our husbands love us for our flaws. So, I've been thinking about it and have decided that I don't give a shit about what other mother's think is right. My son is a product of me and my husband and it is up to US to provide him with the love and support he needs and if every mother in Atlanta is potty training their kids at 2, good for them. If mom's are growing their kid's hair out like the Jolie-Pitt kids, let them. If all the mommies are trying to look like Sarah Palin, God help them. But as for me and my family we will continue to have our own style. So enough with the should-ing.We don't need any more pressure on ourselves or from our neighbors to be cool, because we are already cool and quite frankly, we've got the looks to back it up,too. HA!

1 comment:

Anonymous said...

So wait, cutting your offspring's hair into a mohawk isn't Brangelina-inspired? Haha, I'm totally kidding. His his is fine like any other normal boy's :)

Moving on, this Paula character's onto something. When you read it, it sounds selfish. When you think about it, it makes sense. You just have to make sure you're happy, healthy and okay with yourself. It's okay not to be in the best mood all the time or have dinner at home all week. We're only human! Snotty moms should stop saying "woe is me" and start loving life. If they wanted to be career mom or the "cool" mom instead of a snotty mom, then that's their own bloody fault. They'll just gawk at you when you know you made decisions right for you and you're happy with yourself. ;-)